Ladies, you didn’t think you’d get away without me noticing did you?!
After writing the post about men’s receptivity, I talked to my amazing friend & brother, Tom, about his ability to receive. While guiding & supporting him, I realized that I also have some resistance to receiving.
For cis straight women, this is often talked about in the context of being “provided for” by a man. Being “provided for” & being receptive are the same thing. Just a matter of semantics.
During our conversation, I had a flashback to my 1st serious relationship. That ended with my partner saying “You don’t need me anymore.” Yuck! Yuckiness aside, today something clicked for me. In that relationship, I struggled & wanted his help but I rarely asked. I didn’t feel worthy. I didn’t feel like he would want to help me. I didn’t want to “owe” him.
He never said anything to indicate as such. This was my trauma & conditioning telling me this story. As a result, I made a lot of decisions from that place of lack & continued to experience more of it, despite wanting to be & feel abundant.
When someone offers to do something for you, if your response is…
😣reject it
😣ask what they want in return
😣ask what you can do for them instead
😣feel unworthy
😣feel uncomfortable
😣think its bigger than what it is
😣feel like you owe them
😣feel like they have something on you now
😣think you can do it better
Then you have an opportunity to shift these beliefs & become more receptive.
It wasn’t until I started receiving from myself that I started to receive from others.
